Everybody wants it, but safe to say, everybody doesn’t get it!
I have had a fair bit of dick in my life, some has been beautiful and some has been… not so good. Great sex (to me) isn’t about how many positions he can flip me in throughout the duration. Or how quick he can make me cum. The best sex has been playful with no expectations, just the intention to devote ourselves to one another in that moment. It involves being present with your partner and having the confidence, security and curiosity to want to explore and get to know each other on a deeper level.
Climax isn’t the end goal.
If you want to be providing or receiving that multi-dimensional dick, you need to understand it goes way beyond lustful desire. Now, I’m not saying you have to be madly in love with one another, although that does help. Sex like this comes from a space of spiritual alignment. Learning to read your lovers energy, receiving it and feeding it back into them. It is very much a push and pull of subtle energies and movements that will build the tension and allow you both to fully let go. Surrendering to the moment and releasing all of the chaos in your mind.
Many of us struggle to stay present.