MULTI-DIMENSIONAL DICK

Everybody wants it, but safe to say, everybody doesn’t get it!

I have had a fair bit of dick in my life, some has been beautiful and some has been… not so good. Great sex (to me) isn’t about how many positions he can flip me in throughout the duration. Or how quick he can make me cum. The best sex has been playful with no expectations, just the intention to devote ourselves to one another in that moment. It involves being present with your partner and having the confidence, security and curiosity to want to explore and get to know each other on a deeper level.

Climax isn’t the end goal.

If you want to be providing or receiving that multi-dimensional dick, you need to understand it goes way beyond lustful desire. Now, I’m not saying you have to be madly in love with one another, although that does help. Sex like this comes from a space of spiritual alignment. Learning to read your lovers energy, receiving it and feeding it back into them. It is very much a push and pull of subtle energies and movements that will build the tension and allow you both to fully let go. Surrendering to the moment and releasing all of the chaos in your mind.

Many of us struggle to stay present.

Its hard to let go if you are continuously questioning how your body looks in certain angles, worrying whether your partner is fully enjoying themselves, or wondering whether they fucked their ex the exact same way. Sex is a chance for us to get out of our heads and just be. Be with the feelings arising within you, be with your partner as their body dances to the rhythm you’re cohesively creating, be with the sensations tingling through your entire vessel. Breathe into them, with depth.

Our breath is so underrated.

It keeps us alive, yet so many people do not breathe properly. Have you ever been mad or upset, then taking a huge nasal inhale that travels all of the way to your tummy, and then fully exhaling, releases the tension? Helps you handle the emotion? Do 5 of these breaths now and try telling me you don’t feel better after… I know you do. I have a cold shower every morning, even in Winter. It helps me focus on my inhales and drop into with my body. It increases our capacity to feel. Shallow breaths on the other hand, have lead me to feeling flustered and on the odd occasion, panic attacks have occurred. Your body needs oxygen, obviously. Paying attention to your breath will help you to stay present. If you take care of the inhale, the exhale will take care of itself. There are numerous healing methods from all around the globe that involve different breathing techniques.

That shit can boost your immune system and release your vessel of stress and disease, it’s powerful.

Have you ever intentionally aligned your breathing pattern with your partners during sex? Try it. I don’t mean frantic breathing from them moving like the energiser bunny, just begin with those slow strokes, help them maintain their chi. Merge with them, it doesn’t need to be rushed. Do not hyper-focus on it either, it will come naturally when you are staying present with your lover. Try not to mouth-breathe (inhaling and exhaling via the mouth) too much whilst doing so. Mouth breathing isn’t great for you, if you have nasal problems then by all means, do your thing. I don’t want you to die.

Mouth breathing is known to reduce longevity, lower your HRV (heart rate variability) and overall decreases the efficiency of oxygen entering your body. For men, this can also reduce the release of vasopressin which is their version of the love hormone. Both men and women create this hormone, but when it comes to love, women are more sensitive to oxytocin. The reduction of vasopressin can eventually negatively impact the kidneys and the body’s water balance. Your kidneys play a major role in your ability to feel sexual desire. They are part of the endocrine system. The adrenal glands located at the top of each kidney produce a lot of these sexy hormones, if they are out of balance, you may experience a reduction in your sex drive (in both sexes). Men can experience ED (erectile disfunction) and for women this can cause menstrual abnormalities.

It’s all a chemical game.

Your ability to receive and experience pleasure can come down to imbalances throughout your entire vessel. All too often we are wanting to provide our partner with the best sex they’ve ever had, but that isn’t always about climaxing. We need to remove the idea that great sex can’t happen without an orgasm. I’ve briefly spoken before about the positive aspects of men not ejaculating. This is referred to as sperm retention. When it comes to men and women’s internal worlds and the regulation of energy, they are very different. Women can increase their ‘Chi’ - life force energy, through intercourse. Men reduce theirs when they ejaculate. If any men are feeling a type of way because women don’t release theirs during sex, just know that we release ours during menstruation.

All is fair in love and war.

According to Mantak Chia, in relation to the Taoist view of healing sexual energy, there are two different types of orgasms. The first being ‘outward-pouring’ which essentially means ‘losing-energy’ pleasure, the release of life-force energy. This is excreted from vital organs such as: the heart, kidneys, liver, spleen, lungs and so on. If you do not know how to redirect this energy through breathing exercises and techniques (for women this is called Ovarian Kung-Fu), the energy is lost. This type of orgasm is limited to sensations in the genitals and rhythmic pulsations. You may experience a brief period of relaxation, but ultimately that energy disappears.

The other is called a ‘Valley Orgasm’ which actually recycles the energy being released, it feeds it back to the organs that need it most. The Valley Orgasm is a full body, powerful experience, creating a constant state of orgasmic pulsations. Men experience both of these types of orgasms too, that’s why sperm retention should be a focus, rather than forcing the energy out of the genitals, they re-direct it back up into the body. This recycling of energy can then be shared with your partner.

Rather than feeling depleted through the loss of energy, you feel revived, ultimately creating a more fulfilling sexual experience for both parties.

Many men and women have the forceful urge to want to ejaculate. They have a limited awareness of their internal world, and actually find the slow, subtle build up of tension uncomfortable. Valley orgasms aren’t something you can force, It’s something that you have to open up to, you have to surrender. Finding a man who is secure enough to understand that having the ability to surrender does not equate to being submissive, is challenging to say the least. In order for both men and women to experience a Valley Orgasm, they must acquire the ability to create open energy channels (meridians), you can do this through meditative techniques, and the ability to trust and surrender to your partner.

When we look at the energy cycles of both men and women, it makes sense that mens energy would deplete when they ejaculate. They release sperm, the very thing that creates life. Fortunately for them, they produce new sperm everyday, completing a full regenerative cycle in around 65 days. Women, however, are born with all of their eggs, the very thing that creates life. We release our eggs every 28 days which depletes our life-force energy. It is vital that women learn how to recycle the energy they are building to increase longevity.

Sex is one of the ways we can do that.

Establishing a multi-dimensional relationship (sexual or not), entails both partners having an equal energetic playing field. Building a strong foundation of trust and intimacy before the physicality takes place; is essential. I’m not talking about whether someone is hyper and you’re chill. I’m talking about your internal worlds. Are your values aligned? Are you at peace with yourself? Do you hold your inner child with love and compassion? I’ve been a dumb bitch who has lowered her standards numerous times over the years, in hopes to achieve one of these otherworldly orgasms. Not going to happen, hun. I’d be out here meditating, exercising, eating right; just to have sex with bruddas who open a can of coke for breakfast and don’t know what the word solitude means…

Dumb bitch behaviour.

Mental stimulation is a massive aspect of this transcendental loving. I’ve mentioned before about the mind, body and soul not being separate. They all feed into each other, to think of them as separate will only cause gaps in your ability to connect and receive pleasure; both with yourself and with your partner.

I am referring to the dick as multi-dimensional because of a few reasons:

1. It’s not just the dick that makes you feel pleasure, it’s his: mind, discipline, attention, affection and his ability to stay present with you and vice versa
   

2. The energy is powerful when both people are honest and in unison, again, this has nothing to actually do with his physical penis, a man fully in his divine masculine will create a space that enables the feminine to fully let go and receive. As a result, this creates a space safe enough for him to be able to surrender and receive too
   

3. When the energy, mind, and body all connect, you do become one and this will project your sex into other realms
   

4. Entering this space opens your vessel up for divine downloads and healing on multiple levels.
   

Having sex merely for the release of tension is fine, but if you potentially had the opportunity to delve into the world of the Gods, surely you would take it?

I have genuinely almost fainted from being loved on so well. My eyes were as open as they are as I am writing this, but best believe all I could see was the galaxy. The biggest hit of euphoria I have ever experienced, and drugs weren’t even involved. I will never forget those sessions, it opened my eyes to a whole other realm of loving that I didn’t even know I was missing. Unfortunately, like I previously mentioned, its not that easy to cum by…

Haha did you get it?

Until next time, Lovers

SIS xox